Thursday, September 9, 2010
The following
paragraph was something I wrote like a month ago. I was sitting in a friend’s
room and this is what I wrote:
"I just killed an
ant and for some reason I felt really bad. The ant wasn't really bothering
me. When I saw it smashed in my finger it just hurt my heart. Why is
it that we have to hurt those who are not bothering us? We just look at
them and hurt them just because we think that they are going to affect what we
have or, because we think that they are going to do something wrong to
us. So as a defensive act we hurt them and smash them with our
finger. It isn't until we really take a look at them that we realize that
we hurt them and we feel bad. Sometimes we don't realize it ourselves when
we look back, but others have to tell us that we have hurt them and that it was
wrong. Later we may realize that what we did, we can't just simply take it back."
I know this is
something pretty random. If you are one of those people who like to analyze
others then you might say “What she was going through, that she had this random
thought about simply killing an ant?". I mean this is something that some
of us do every day, I just killed an ant oh you're in trouble! No we never say
that. Well to those of you who asked yourselves that question the answer is
yes, something irritating had happened to me....
Okay I have to get
this out of my chest; from a long time ago I tried to just ignore it. I'm not
going to make a huge deal about it but I am dead serious about what I am about
to write. I don't really know how to correctly start this but this is
how I'll start, after a normal church day a friend of mine told me
that someone had said to her that I had been flirting with this guy that I had
met just a week ago. The person who told this to my friend thought that I
needed some advice because I had been "flirting" with this guy. I
immediately got mad at this that I was being told. I know that I did not flirt
with this guy, if you don't know me well I am a very happy person I really like
to make people feel welcome and comfortable when they are new to a group or a
country. Unfortunately there are people who think that they know who I am and
what I want in life. I have some things I would like to point out: first of all
I was not flirting with him. Second, don't confuse flirting with being nice to
someone. Third I am really serious when I say that right now I am only focusing
on God. I am not the type of person who would go to church to flirt and make
new guy friends. Don't get me wrong with this, I am not going to lie this makes
me really mad, especially because the person who said this, whom I do not know
who it is, is someone who is or pretends to be a friend of mine. It just hurts
to know that someone that you love is thinking that when you go to church your
mind is on guys and not on God. By this I am not saying that it is bad to like
someone from your church, it's normal if you do. Try not to make that person
the center of your existence, remember God is always the center of your
existence. For a moment imagine that I like someone from my church, so what, I
would never concentrate on falling for him and not falling for my lovely God.
If you ever see that someone in your church likes another person be sure that
you are not the gossiper who is the first one to be telling everyone "hey
this person likes this other person"..."how do you
know"..."Well you can just tell by the way this person acts"
DON'T DO THIS!!! Hello this is wrong! Did you just realize that you started a
rumor! Don't ever say a thing if you are not 100 percent sure that it is true
and you have asked that person that you are going to talk about and verified
that what you are saying is true. Even if you know it's true it is not of you
business or others business to know others personal life. This just doesn't
only apply to someone liking another person, it applies to anything that there
is to be said about another person. Remember that the bible says in 1 Thessalonians
5:11
"Therefore
encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are
doing"
This passage clearly
says encourage one another, it does not say talk bad about others and expect
them to still trust you. The second part of the passage says "...just as
in fact you are doing.", so it is expected for you to be doing this
encouraging one another.
2 Corinthians 6:3 says
“We put no stumbling block in anyone's path, so that our ministry will not be
discredited." This
passage is in regard to when you start gossiping about others, you are being a
stumbling block to the person that you are telling the "juicy
gossip". We have to understand that gossiping is one of the biggest things
that bring a ministry down. Don't try to be helpful by saying certain things
and then you don't even know if what you are saying will end up helping that
other person or actually bringing them down. Unfortunately in that case the
person who said that about me probably thought that they were doing well, when
actually for a moment they brought bitterness to my day. Thank God I have
learned before that if we start living on what others start thinking about us
then we won't be able to be pillars of a strong ministry. I just felt I had to
say this because first I had to make clear that I don't go to church to search
for a guy but to search the presence of God. Secondly because it is so
important to know that we have to stop gossiping and start building each other
up. Remember before you are about to say something about someone else ask
yourself “will this be an encouragement for my brother or am I going to act as
a stumbling block?"
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